EDAC wrote:Out of curiosity: did you actually read my article? (And, in case that wasn’t clear or you don’t recognize the byline, I’m the author.)
If not, please read it. Otherwise, your post comes across as incredibly insensitive — that article discusses, amongst other things, how close I was to killing myself before I was able to accept my orientation (in the words of the statement, adopted a “homosexual self-concept”). Many other people have faced the same struggle — but words from pastors, friends, and family pushed them too far and they aren’t here with us anymore. To follow that concept with a copy-paste statement of “you need to do this regardless of how difficult it is” comes as cross as incredibly uncaring / callous / insensitive.
Yeah, I read the entire article. It was well written and I did not mean any disrespect towards you, your opinion and your story. Nobody can deny the personal experience and journey you have gone through.
I think my take has more to do with placing someone's identity in their sexual orientation, which is something I would not encourage any Christian to do (whether heterosexual or homosexual). Having our identity in Christ alone is what I would encourage Christians to do.
We all experience different temptations that we don't desire to have as Christians. But that doesn't mean I place my identity in my struggles. Instead, my faith, trust and identity is in Jesus. And I honestly acknowledge the temptations in my life as just that: Temptations that I regularly struggle with. In short, I think it's a mistake for Christians to place their identity in anything but Jesus.
To be clear, I don't believe in the idea of "pray away the gay". But I do believe that the Holy Spirit gives us strength to overcome temptation when it comes. And the times where we mess up as beautiful but broken people (which is daily), I trust in Jesus that my sins, both in thought and deed, are covered.
I don't have any problem with someone acknowledging they have a sexual orientation that doesn't follow scripture. Actually, being honest enough to recognize that is a step forward in some regard. However, I wouldn't say they would place their identity in their sexual orientation.
Likewise, someone may find out their political views follow more Democratic or Republican views. But I wouldn't encourage anyone to place their identity as a Republican or Democrat. As Christians, our identity is in Jesus and anything else we relate to or struggle with are secondary at best. And we continue to live out the teachings of Scripture, regardless of those secondary things.
I appreciate your candor. And I hope you may read my words with grace, because it's a tough topic to place into words. The best thing I can encourage you to do, to understand my view, is to listen to the 20 minute podcast mentioned in the first post of this thread.
Much love man.